This is what gaslighting looks like

She never believed he had any love for her, and it’s tearing her up inside. She realizes that he doesn’t love her, or even respect her, and she is unable to explain why that is. She decides she’s not going to live like this anymore. So she starts to make changes in her life, because he has made it very difficult for her to live the life she wants.

(I’m only going to go with the first two paragraphs because I think I’m going to need to write another article to explain my take on what happens next. )

A woman realizes that the man who was her father was abusive, especially to her. She never believed he had any love for her, and it’s tearing her up inside. She realizes that he doesn’t love her, or even respect her, and she is unable to explain why that is. She decides she’s not going to live like this anymore. So she starts to make changes in her life, because he has made it very difficult for her to live the life she wants.

But then she starts to get rejected, and she starts to feel like a failure.

She feels like she’s let everybody down, and she starts to doubt herself, and her decisions, and her life.

She starts to feel like she’s making a big mistake.

And it’s not because she’s a woman, or because she’s a mother, or because she’s a working woman, or a woman with a disability, or a woman who is black, or a woman who is fat, or a woman who is young, or a woman who is old. It’s not because she’s a trans woman, or a trans parent, or a trans person of color. It’s not because she’s a lesbian or a bisexual woman, or a mother or a disabled person, or a person of color or a fat person, or a young person or an old person, or a person of any gender, or a parent, or a parent of any gender. It’s not because she’s white, or she’s a woman of color, or she’s a mother, or she’s a working woman, or a woman with a disability, or a woman who is black, or a woman who is young, or a woman who is old. It’s not because she’s a trans woman, or a trans parent, or a trans person of color. It’s not because she’s a lesbian or a bisexual woman, or a mother or a disabled person, or a person of color or a fat person, or a young person or an old person, or a person of any gender, or a parent, or a parent of any gender.